Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Saying Goodbye

On Sunday the host children from Ukraine returned home.  We went to the airport for Ruslana to see her friends and say goodbye.  One of her best friends, Alya, was in the area early so we were able to go out to breakfast with her and her host mom and sister.  It was such a sweet reunion. Alya yelled "Rus-ia!" the second she saw her and ran up and gave her a big hug.  She also gave her a friendship necklace which was the sweetest thing.  It was so much fun seeing the two of them laughing and having a wonderful time together.  Here are a few photos from breakfast:

After breakfast we headed to the airport to see the rest of the group and send them off.  At first it was a happy time of catching up and saying hello.  
Alya, Katya, Alyona, Ruslana, Andriy
Ruslana and Myroslav (her other best friend)
Alya, Katya, Andriy, Ruslana 

But then it became incredibly sad.  The children were crying because they didn't want to go back to Ukraine.  The families were crying because they didn't want them to go.  It was a helpless situation as the crying children went up the escalator and the host families were left waving behind the security checkpoint.  
Alya and Ruslana arm in arm
Ruslana and Myroslav
Ruslana started crying, and even I, the non-emotional one, got teary eyed.  I thought back to a few days prior when at school Ruslana was asked what worried her.  She said her friends having to go back to Ukraine.  Now was the moment that her worry was coming to fruition.  No child should have to experience the emotions that these kids do.  It's absolutely heartbreaking! :(

On a positive note, the hosting trip was a big success and the number of children being pursued for adoption looks promising.  A few of the children however, are currently unavailable for adoption.  Please pray for their status to change as their host families so badly want to adopt them. Pray for God to move mountains and change the improbable so that these children can experience the love of a family. 


  1. Why let a lil thing like the fact pre selecting a Ukrainian orphan to adopt is illegal, according to the US Consul General in Kiev stop the godly host families???


    1. In many cases, hosting involves a family accepting an eligible orphan into their home for a specific period of time, the child and the family form a strong connection, the child returns to Ukraine once the hosting period is over, and the family chooses to pursue the adoption of that child. There is absolutely nothing illegal about that. In fact, most adoptions in Ukraine originate from hosting experiences, and the Ukrainian and American governments acknowledge and permit adoptions under such circumstances.

      Every family that pursues the adoption of a previously-hosted child recognizes that the child cannot be reserved. Any family who has dealt with the Ukrainian State Department of Adoptions knows that there are no guarantees. The child could be unavailable, unlocatable, or already adopted by the time the family gets to Ukraine. However, neither Ukraine law, United States law, nor any sentence of the letter you linked to prohibits a family from pursuing the adoption of a previously-hosted child.

      I would suggest that, rather than perpetuating your misunderstanding of the hosting and adoption process, you educate yourself by learning from the experiences and knowledge of families who have adopted from Ukraine.

  2. You need to learn more about this-previous poster- there are no children held in Ukraine. There are just hopes that when you arrive that child is still available. I have heard of a few heart breaks where the children were adopted by another family before they could arrive. But in all honesty, there aren't long lines of waiting people. These children are often left behind, waiting for someone to love them! Most will never know the love of a family.